The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
So many people only associate PTSD with combat soldiers, and those who have dealt with domestic violence know what it is like to fight a constant war at home.
In the aftermath of abuse, we often have to deal with a myriad of PTSD triggers. Daily life was abuse, now daily life is a reminder of that abuse. By that I mean that sometimes the most normal activities and events can trigger memories and emotional flashbacks. That means that the most mundane tasks can become very difficult to manage.
Are you supporting someone with PTSD? If you are here to find out how you can better help them, I want you to know how awesome you are!
The thing about PTSD and recovery is that it’s complex. It’s not as simples as 1 2 3 you’re fixed. There were definitely times that I thought some of my problems were PTSD specific, but it turned out that some things were just general, across-the-board human experiences.
You may think of PTSD as an emotional disorder, but it really isn’t. PTSD show up in your brain, and actually influences how your brain functions.
I find myself typing about CPTSD, and how it gets to turn a funny, loving, and positive person, into a blubbering fool who is ready to just give up.
All survivors have those types of triggers. In fact, sometimes it can be a smell, or a song, or seeing someone in the street who looks just like our abuser.
Even if you don’t have full-blown PTSD (and I sure hope you don’t), these can be adapted to help with any traumatic or high-stress situation.
PTSD really is a normal response to trauma. In this PTSD podcast Aubrey and Monkey talk about everything from what it is, to how it can manifest.