Healing after abuse is like building a new self from the ground up. Now that you are free, who will you be? Learning new life skills is part of the journey.
People can learn resiliency skills to use when facing challenging times, and increase the quality of the experience and change the quality of the outcome.
Spiritual healing—not to be confused with religion—nurtures the soul; reigniting the spark of our passion, inspiration, and sense of belonging.
Toxic people both demean and overemphasize health and self-care. While being criticized for not healing and for trying to heal, I’d be told I’d die a horrible, slow, young death.
In this podcast about my no contact anniversary, I talk about more complicated emotions like anger and guilt, and how sometimes we feel tired of recovery.
I read that snippet of advice recently and it just struck a chord with me. How simple a dividing line is that? Over the past year, I began to consciously contemplate and apply that quote to my daily life, and to my surprise the happiness and peace in my life increased significantly.
My forgiveness has nothing to do with them, and everything with me.
There may be days that you feel you will never truly recover from the abuse. Feeling overwhelmed is understandable, but not conducive to your healing. So how do you get back in the driver’s seat?
Slowly I learned that it is okay, nae recommendable, to take a rest. This is not a sign of laziness, entitlement or greed. It’s an act of self-care.
The most astounding thing was that, once I felt this in my bones, it was as if a miracle occurred in my healing. Self-compassion brought a miracle.