When abusers say, ‘You reap what you sow’ it means ‘you are the real cause of the abuse’. But is there truth to this old adage that abusers fail to see?
My forgiveness has nothing to do with them, and everything with me.
Anger is a very powerful emotion. One which society tends to feel is bad and self-indulgent. Yet it has the potential to benefit our relationships.
Parentification and infantalization are strategies to make the victim feel both responsible
The dynamic of a toxic family is one of loneliness as the emotional abuser needs to isolate their victims.
When choosing to establish boundaries toward our toxic parents, many survivors experience what can be described as a pond of guilt.
I see the enabling person as one who will use every trick in the book to let the toxic person get their own way.
The abuse is part of a bigger toxic dynamic. There are maybe other victims or Flying Monkeys. One thing you’ll never find? An innocent bystander.
As long as I can remember I knew my mother and I had a difficult relationship at best. I wondered why my mother doesn’t love me when I was still young.
Very often in toxic families, there is one troubled parent and one enabling parent. Both are unable to function as a parent.