As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Love bombing is a manipulation tactic used by abusers—of all kinds—to convince the people they want to use that they are worthy of trust; using it as a bargaining chip to fall back on if the target starts realizing that they’re being mistreated.
Recently a dear friend and fellow-survivor lost her toxic mother and it got us to talking about grief. I sometimes wonder how I will respond when I find out.
When abuse never takes any physical form, it can be tough to feel sure it ever happened. After all, everybody makes mistakes… no parent is perfect. Right?
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
Here are 5 things I do to break out of negative thinking, shift some of that energy and create a happier mind.
Let me say this about that turn of phrase ‘the right to see their grandchild’. I think that, when they chose to be abusive to you, they forfeited any rights to your children.
The further I progress my own healing, the more I learn what separates those who survive from the ones that thrive. So let’s look at surviving vs thriving!
Parentification and infantalization are strategies to make the victim feel both responsible