When abusers say, ‘You reap what you sow’ it means ‘you are the real cause of the abuse’. But is there truth to this old adage that abusers fail to see?
There are people in this world who leave you feeling totally depleted. The second you see them, you feel your energy drain from your body and mind.
Interacting with toxic people is a little like playing Emotional Russian Roulette. By that I mean that you never know which version of the person will be on the other side of the door.
When abuse never takes any physical form, it can be tough to feel sure it ever happened. After all, everybody makes mistakes… no parent is perfect. Right?
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I dislike that saying, because guess what: it was words that beat me to a pulp every day
The drive for perfection means the toxic person focuses all their attention and effort on the exterior, but they are people of little emotional substance
When I was 4 years old, I expressed an instant dislike to one of the pastors in our town. My parents thought it was strange that I had such a dislike for the man, but I just could not take to him. He never DID anything to me or anyone else (as far as I […]
When we talk about a lack of emotional self-control, we usually think of anger. And we all have our days when we lose our temper, or cannot swallow the snarky retort. For the most part, we are able to control ourselves, and our emotional responses though. For toxic people, that can be a different game […]
Just like their present, a toxic person has a drama-fueled past. Although I know this about my mother, I have no idea at the actual history.
When choosing to establish boundaries toward our toxic parents, many survivors experience what can be described as a pond of guilt.