One reasons why within recovery boundaries are so important, is that abusers don't do boundaries. They see their targets as an extension of themselves.

Why are boundaries so important? They distinguish self from other. Boundaries are about me deciding what is important in my life, and what I want to spend my time, my energy, my attention, my whatever. Boundaries are not just about saying no, but also about what you decide to say yes to.

One of the reasons why boundaries are particularly important within recovery, is that abusers don’t do boundaries. Typically they see their targets as an extension of themselves. Setting boundaries becomes really complicated for targets because

A) we’re not used to it and

B) when we do implement boundaries within a toxic relationship either they’re not respected or it gets us into trouble, it triggers an attack. So, we become really insecure about being allowed to set boundaries.

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*This article is based on the podcast Mags and Michael recorded on How to Set and Maintain Healthy Boundaries.

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Having gained experience while working for a variety of European non-profits, I am proud to now work with SwanWaters. My connection with the website is not only professional. I am glad to tap into my personal experiences to help those who are living in toxic relationships whether with parents, partners or in their professional life. We need to make the world more aware of the devastating effects of emotional abuse and help more people on their way to heal and thrive.
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Michael is an author, speaker, trainer, and consultant. He travels the world helping people learn how to add more resilience into their lives at home, work and community. Michael specializes in helping people, families, organizations and community’s learn how to thrive with resiliency. Resilience is a process, a set of key assets, skills and beliefs that can change our lives. Resiliency can changes the quality of our journey and often the quality of the outcomes. Connect with Michael on Twitter and Facebook or check his website www.ResiliencyforLife.com for more information. Michael's new book "The Gift" is due out in later winter 2016.
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One reasons why within recovery boundaries are so important, is that abusers don't do boundaries. They see their targets as an extension of themselves.One reasons why within recovery boundaries are so important, is that abusers don't do boundaries. They see their targets as an extension of themselves.

One reasons why within recovery boundaries are so important, is that abusers don't do boundaries. They see their targets as an extension of themselves.

One reasons why within recovery boundaries are so important, is that abusers don't do boundaries. They see their targets as an extension of themselves.

One reasons why within recovery boundaries are so important, is that abusers don't do boundaries. They see their targets as an extension of themselves.

One reasons why within recovery boundaries are so important, is that abusers don't do boundaries. They see their targets as an extension of themselves.


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