Okay, I made that sound a little whimsical, but there is nothing fun or lighthearted about growing up in a toxic family! Often the targets in the toxic family are not even aware of what is going on. After all, the toxicity may not be normal, it is their normal.
As a child with toxic parents, your frame of reference is toxicity. That is why it often takes a long time to realize that the relationships within the family are not healthy. If that realization even happens at all.
So, if you are here: be proud! You are looking for answers. You are investigating, learning and healing. Even if it took you some time to get here, don’t be upset it took you this long, be happy you got here at all!
When you grow up with toxic or emotionally abusive parents, it can be very difficult to understand what is going on. The indoctrination begin from the moment you are born, and your frame of reference is entirely controlled by your family of origins. These articles can also be helpful when you are dealing with abuse in other settings.
Different Roles in a Toxic Family (podcast)
Coming to Terms with a Toxic Upbringing
Here are some articles about the impact of a toxic childhood. The articles may still be interesting to other survivors too, as it deals with long term effects and the behaviors we learn from abusers.
Parenting After Abuse
Whether you are parenting your kids after leaving a toxic partner, or after experiencing childhood abuse yourself… these circumstances come with some extra challenges. Here are a few resources to help you on your way. Look for more on parenting with a toxic ex specifically, we have gathered those resources here.