Recently we published an article recommending ‘baby steps’ on your path to healing – and here’s how it concluded:

When I look at the entire journey, I cannot make out
the little steps that moved me forward.
At the same time, when I look at the little steps, I cannot oversee
the distance I have traveled.

That made me think about the distance we have traveled as an organization and website too. So much has happened and we have come so far.

A Trip Down Memory Lane

I realized it has been almost a year since I started this weekly Swan Blog, and going through some of the posts, I was reminded of some good information and resources that newer members and followers may never have seen!

Like the time when we were once again reminded about how similar our various stories really are:

My fellow Founding Swan commented: “I could have written that, that is my story!” It brought home to us once more how frighteningly similar our experiences are, even when the details vary. That feeling of desperation, the feelings of loss and pain. Lucky us, there are also other feelings that we share! The feeling of achievement when we prove them wrong. The feeling of validation when we hear we are not alone.

And can you still remember how following SwanWaters on social media will make you happier? Because we do :) It has something to do with these guys:

Brew the Happy Feelingsbeauty aroundfly high
Let me remind you that you can get your own copies of some of these memes from our Zazzle store

Practical Advice

There was also some practical advice on how to cope with toxic people and families. Like the Making it Through Christmas post or Dealing With the Christmas Merry Go Round (both work for other occasions too!).

The Blog Helps Healing Too

Butterflies4Like when Monkey told us how she had given her memories wings!

The blog also spoke about Trust, and how as Swans we can sometimes be overly trusting, or trust absolutely no-one!

And more recently I shared some information about moving from Surviving to Thriving, explained some of the benefits of a Positivity Portfolio, and  shared what I had learned about Keeping Safe Online.


This Blog Tells The Story of How this Website Provides Healing to Members and Builders Alike

Seriously! SwanWaters is a place of healing, validation and support. There is also a real sense of helping others and paying it forward. That energy in turn helps members (and team members) further their own healing still. The healing that comes from sharing, and from helping is ever present in the website, and therefore in the blog :) Here are some prime examples:

By talking to each other we started adding voices to our head, supportive voices, friendly and loving messages slowly started to drown out the abusive ones. Eventually we realized that we were healing. We started talking about the wonderful ways in which our lives were changing, and more and more we had a wish to pay that change forward. We would meet others, and recognized our old selves in their eyes. How many Ugly Ducklings are out there, beating themselves up for being themselves?

Paying it forward does not make me feel stuck in the past,
it helps me to keep driving forward.

SunshineOn my Internet journey I started to come across posts on various open community platforms that had titles like “Help, I think my mother hates me” and “My partner does not hit me, can he still abuse me?” With every click I realized how many people experience emotional abuse in some form or another during their lives. What struck me though, and what really broke my heart, was that so many of these people received the most useless responses in the world. In fact some responses were downright harmful! “Of course your mother loves you, all mother do” or “just be a man and tell your wife to shut up”. I imagined how lonely these Ugly Ducklings must be feeling. They worked up the nerve to reach out to the world, and the world confirmed what their Ducks had been telling them: it is in your head, you are making it all up! It is YOU!

You have obviously found our blog, why not tweet about it and help other Ugly Ducklings find their way too!

It really has been quite a journey, and we are nowhere near done with it either :)

See you next week!

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Having gained experience while working for a variety of European non-profits, I am proud to now work with SwanWaters. My connection with the website is not only professional. I am glad to tap into my personal experiences to help those who are living in toxic relationships whether with parents, partners or in their professional life. We need to make the world more aware of the devastating effects of emotional abuse and help more people on their way to heal and thrive.

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