We recently started sending out Daily Journal Juice, in other words: journaling prompts. Every day we send out an email with a phrase a paragraph, a quote, a thought… Anything that will inspire thought and writing.
Here are the journaling prompts we sent out so far:
“Growing up within a toxic family meant I was in a constant state of emotional warfare. Unsurprisingly, I developed my own personal emotional armor to protect me from the constant folly of attack. This armor took many forms, and encompassed anything from the preemptive strike, to extreme people pleasing. The most prevalent feature was to simply stop connecting to my emotions.
What I don’t feel, I don’t have to deal with.
Much of my life I spend with my head firmly in the sand. The only way for a person, and especially a child, to survive a toxic family situation, is to block out what is really going on. Yet as longs as we refuse to deal with the experiences and emotions it brings, we are likely to repeat the toxic pattern.
Just as much as we need to address behavioral patterns we developed from the abuse, we have to address the emotional strategies we have put in place.”
Why I Needed Everyone’s Approval
“I think most people know the feeling of wanting to be liked and needing people’s approval. Survivors go to huge lengths to be liked. It often means denying their own wants and needs, and sometimes even doing things that they are not comfortable with.
Part of the reason I was trying so hard to be liked, is because I lacked confidence. Having been under the influence of a toxic person, I have had my sense of self nibbled on, until there was none left. I have been told that I was unlovable, incompetent, unimportant and the list goes on.
In order to prove to myself that I am not any of those things, I often catch myself overcompensating. As soon as I felt someone did not like me, I immediately started to believe all the bad things I was ever made to believe about myself. So in order not to feel like that, I had to make sure that I was liked and appreciated. It was a constant battle to prove my own worth.”
The Healing Mindset
“A proactive attitude and a drive to get better are essential to the success of your healing journey. Without them all the therapy, community support and reading are not going to make one iota of difference.
Your potential to heal from the abuse is unequivocally linked to your commitment to doing the work. This is manifestation and the power of thought at its core.
If you are going to sit around, waiting to ‘be healed’… you may as well wait for your fairy godmother.
I think that many people see manifestation as some sort magic short cut. If I just wish to be fixed really, really hard, it will magically appear.
I think manifestation is about knowing where you want to go and adopting a mindset that will get you there. In that sense the manifestation is merely the commitment to your goals, and it does not replace the journey toward healing.
Without a healing mindset you cannot heal, with it you will not stop until you do…”
My Scars Are Reminders
“My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. That in itself is an accomplishment. And they bring to mind something else, too. They remind me that the damage life has inflicted on me has, in many places, left me stronger and more resilient. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present.”
― Steve Goodier
How Stress Becomes Anxiety and Fear
“While freaking out at one of my sisters of choice, she told me this:
“Yes, you are off balance because things are changing. And it feels like when we were kids and our parents kept us off balance. But you can’t take a step without changing your balance. We just have a fear of it because we were subjected to our balance being unnecessarily messed up.”
That observation really helped my greater understanding. Being off balance is never nice I guess, but for survivors it is not just unpleasant… it is a trigger. All our abusers, no matter our relationships to them, kept us in a constant state of imbalance, insecurity and stress. We never knew what was coming, we never knew where we stood, and we were constantly anxious because of it.
It makes sense than that, when life becomes stressful, we immediately default to the feeling of stress and panic we experienced while subject to the abuse.”
Will I Always Be a Survivor?
“The simple realization that life is a journey, not a destination can be very helpful. Sure our journey includes healing from abuse, but it also includes a lot of other things. Perhaps we have a wonderful partner, or very good friends, an amazing job…
As our identity is not just one thing (we are not JUST a survivor), our journey is never just one thing either. We may very well be dancing a cha cha cha and hip hop number, all at the same time. That’s how we rock!”
To Write or Not to Write
As you can tell from that selection, the journaling prompts are pretty elaborate. Don’t worry though if you do not always get around to writing. Getting some information or inspiration at the start of your day will inspire thought and will aid on your recovery journey.
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