This question comes up quite a bit when I talk to survivors: Why is my abuser so successful?
Many abusers are mostly very successful at projecting an image, and in that image, theirs is a successful life. At least by a certain definition.
Imagine having to live a life where you are so unhappy, so damaged and so afraid of your own mind that you lash out at other people.
The work you are committed to, being kinder and less judgmental toward yourself, that’s what will make your life a happier place. What is ‘success’ anyway, right?
Here are some thoughts on this topic