#1. – A Sense of Power Over My Life

I had spent a lifetime kowtowing to his every whim and demand just to keep the peace. By drawing this line and refusing to allow him to keep controlling me like a master puppeteer, I suddenly realized I was steering my own ship. It occurred to me that I was no longer going to bed wondering if I was going to face another tirade.

Oh, sure, he would try calling from other numbers and I’d just block those, too. He even once grabbed the cell phone from a subordinate at work and called me from that. The story I heard from people who were there was everyone was too afraid of him to say no. That, reportedly, changed shortly after they read my blog.

In the weeks that followed my going No Contact, I saw a lot more crazy behaviors out of him, but I also realized my own power to stand up for myself.

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Aubrey Cole

Aubrey Cole

I survived a quarter century of psychological, emotional, economic and sexual abuse. When I got out, I vowed to help others do the same and founded the Emotional Abuse Survivors Network project in 2012. Now, I offer hope and healing to others on their journey as they rediscover themselves. My forthcoming books, Bodies in the Basement and Define Winning, chronicle my experiences, escape, and recovery. There is nothing so special about me that others can't emerge and thrive.

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