I did not think there was more full-on crazy, but me going No Contact revealed a whole new level. It was a relief to see that I was clearly not the problem.

#4. – It Would Drive Him Utterly Insane (If He Wasn’t There Already)

I did not think there was more full-force crazy, but me going No Contact revealed a whole new level. The guy would call my home number over and over from blocked numbers. It wouldn’t ring through, but all the calls were logged by my AT&T UVerse system. I could see how many times he called, from what numbers, and at what times.

When he sent the police to my house to do a “welfare check” (i.e., “Bitch, unblock the phones”), I was able to show that he had not only called numerous times after having already talked to the children the night before, but that he was lying when he said he was trying to reach the children. 17 of the first 20 calls were during school hours. The side benefit of all this was it validated for me just how much I had been putting up with because I was afraid of his wrath.

Yeah, he filed false contempt charges against me because of it. But it ended up that, not only did his attorney withdraw himself and his whole firm from representing Captain Crazy. He was found in contempt of court on my counteraction which I would not have filed had he not fabricated his claims.

It was a relief to see that he was truly bat-shit crazy and that I was clearly not the problem.

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Aubrey Cole

Aubrey Cole

I survived a quarter century of psychological, emotional, economic and sexual abuse. When I got out, I vowed to help others do the same and founded the Emotional Abuse Survivors Network project in 2012. Now, I offer hope and healing to others on their journey as they rediscover themselves. My forthcoming books, Bodies in the Basement and Define Winning, chronicle my experiences, escape, and recovery. There is nothing so special about me that others can't emerge and thrive.

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