#5. – Energy to Devote To the Things I Wanted and Needed To Do
When I would field crazy calls or texts or emails from Captain Crazy, it would suck my energy dry. Many times these communications included false accusations and unprovoked attacks.
For a while, I would answer with logic and reason, which of course never worked. Then I would answer with a counter attack because I was so freaking sick of dealing with his garbage when he was the one who chose to move away.
Once I went No Contact, it occurred to me that I was sleeping better, I had more focus, and I didn’t jump when my phone rang or text chimed. I was able to concentrate much better on my graduate school work, and be a more energetic and focused parent for my girls. We also had a lot more fun in general because I wasn’t one raw nerve all the time.
So, while I expected that No Contact would give me more day-to-day respite from the crazy, I didn’t expect that I would feel so much better physically.
Remember that No Contact is not a punishment toward the abuser; punishments don’t work with them, anyway. No Contact is a reward for you! It is a way of putting yourself first, which also benefits those you love.
You start to regain your true self and your clouded view of the world begins to clear.
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