It occurs to me that people want survivors to just “get over it”. The healing is superficial as the emphasis is not on being well, but on being well enough.
I often hear survivors stress out at the prospect of meeting —and talking to—their abuser. Here are some pointers on dealing with Difficult Conversations.
Abuse, and the many varied effects it has on you, is incredibly difficult to understand for people who have not experienced it themselves. Mags shares some things to keep in mind when trying to tackle this challenge.
It is a question I get quite often: how can I make my x/y/z see the abuse? If I had the answer, my sisters would still be in the toxic family we grew up in.
This is the first step of three that I use when having to deal with a toxic person. Today I talk about the importance of responding from a place of peace.
We should keep this in mind when we look at general information: Toxic Relationships Are Not Part of This Conversation! The rules do not apply to abusers.
Do you know someone who’s so afraid of conflict that they’ll just not make any decisions or voice any opinions? This is utterly unaccommodating behavior.
When you do something to look after yourself you have a huge guilt trip? Is there part of you that things looking after yourself in selfish?
We can’t be constantly in survival mode while also trying to heal. So ask yourself if Facebook makes you anxious, maybe it’s time to take a Facebook fast.
Some days it is easier to self-care than others. Christine Judd and I talk about the things we do to get through the days when it is a little harder.