by guest lecturer Michael Ballard
Hello and a Happy New Years to you and yours!
It’s that time of year again. We feel guilt over not being what we think we should be, and give into the pressure to—we cave into the social pressure to make New Years Resolutions, and set goals to better our lives. However, we know that doesn’t work for most of us. So as a reformed New-Years-Resolution-Goal Setter, let’s talk.
Don’t set those regular goals.
Instead, come up with some meaningful goals that 1) won’t put a strain on the old wallet because they’re completely free to do, and 2) possess the potential to offer a large reward for our own health and the health of our family. I call them The Big Three! So what are they? Keep reading to find out.
The Big Three
Most of us don’t get enough of it, or the high-quality levels we need. And we pay the price for it. Oh, I know! Kids, work, neighbours, hobbies, and cleaning can get in the way. However, sleep helps restore us mentally, emotionally, and physically. So it’s really worth learning to look at it as an investment by considering that it can support all the other areas of our lives.
So if most mornings, you’re not waking up feeling relaxed and energized, it’s time for a change. The goal isn’t perfection but excellence. So how can you achieve this? Cut back on how much TV you watch, limit your coffee intake, and try going to bed 90 minutes earlier. Getting some exercise each day will also help. Also, consider using caution with what you eat or drink for your dinner—you don’t want the last thing you ate to interrupt your sleep due to indigestion (ask me all about this and how it ties in with my love of hot and spicy Thai food and interrupted sleep when we meet)!
You can develop and deepen this by working meditation into your everyday life. In fact, just about anything that requires an even tempo can be really soothing so things like walking, eating (think the Slow Food movement), exercising, or engaging in your hobbies. And if you need some help maintaining a slow rhythm, play slow music while you’re doing whatever it is that you’re doing!
I have several ways I like to relax! These include exercise, playing music, hiking, walking, baking, an Epsom salts bath with peppermint oil, reading, swimming, dimmable lights, and candles. All these things help me lower my heart rate, and breath more deeply and slowly.
Lets Wrap This Up!
It’s possible that you think, “I don’t have time for any of this!” Well, let me assure you that investing in The Big Three will provide you with skills and mindsets that benefit all the other areas of your life: the gifts of better health, concentration, focus, productivity, and happiness. Each helps build on the other. They’ll help you feel restored, relaxed, and renewed. Better yet: they don’t cost any money! Give yourself the gift of The Big Three!
Healing from emotional abuse can be overwhelming. We know, because we are all survivors, and we have been through the highs and lows of healing. We have created The Healing Academy to help you navigate your healing journey. We share the skills we learned while coming to terms with our dysfunctional past, and share how we took our own lives from permanent survival mode to life-affirming tranquillity.