Michael Ballard and Mags Thomson both learned from experience how to deal with a toxic boss. How do they affect you and what can you do to protect yourself?
Anger is a very powerful emotion. One which society tends to feel is bad and self-indulgent. Yet it has the potential to benefit our relationships.
Parentification and infantalization are strategies to make the victim feel both responsible
Whether by denial, lying or being covertly abusive – phrasing what they say very carefully to intentionally hurt you – an abuser will use gaslighting as just one weapon in an arsenal of many. The tactic is used to alienate and isolate you from others, most especially your loved ones or co-workers.
The silent treatment is commonly used by narcissists and sociopaths. It is dished out as punishment, and means the victim ceases to exist in their world.
Realizing the true extend of the toxic family, and understanding that what happened was in fact abuse is a long and difficult journey. It is only the first step on our road to recovery, but it really is the most important one. That first step toward a better, more healthy life.
Just like Narcissus and Echo needed each other, so the narcissist and the enabler have a symbiotic relationship.
People may be miles apart, there is little difference in how emotional abuse is perpetrated. This list will help you spot the emotional abuser in your life.
As long as I can remember I knew my mother and I had a difficult relationship at best. I wondered why my mother doesn’t love me when I was still young.
Recently I had a conversation with some co-workers about who had worked for the worst boss. When I said: “I used to work for a boss that hit me”. I had clearly marked the winner. “Why did you not just leave the job?” my friend asked astonished. Of course I did leave the job eventually, but it took me a few years, and some major health scares to realize what was going on.