Intuition isn’t some magical, pie-in-the-sky super power only witches possess, but simply another way to draw upon information we have about a situation.
This question comes up quite a bit when I talk to survivors: Why is my abuser so successful? Many abusers are mostly very successful at projecting an image.
It took many years for me to understand that guilt and shame are two entirely different things with vastly different impacts.
Mags shares some concepts and tools that she finds useful when trying to be resilient while experiencing complex (negative) emotions.
Guilt is a complex emotion, but one survivors of abuse are intimately familiar with. The experience of abuse is -among many other complicated things- the world biggest guilt trip.
The ever cheerful and resilient Michael Ballard was kind enough to share some videos with us to help you understand how to teach resilience for children.
When you first think of going no contact with your abuser, you may think that it’s as simple as just ignoring the phone calls. There is more to it than that.
In this podcast about my no contact anniversary, I talk about more complicated emotions like anger and guilt, and how sometimes we feel tired of recovery.
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”
In my experience it has been far harder to deal with the Flying Monkey, than with the actual abuser(s). I felt far more confused, hurt and unbalanced after encounters, than I did for example in the aftermath of no contact.