One of the things we survivors of abuse have in common is the inability to get our abuser to just go away after the relationship is over.
Many survivors of abuse chose to "go no contact" with their abuser. It is a state in which we deny the abuser direct access to us. We are often accused of selfishness (especially those who cut contact with their parents or siblings), but no contact is not about the abuser.
So what is a Flying Monkey? I always think of them as a toxic person’s remote controls. They are the people that enable, perpetuate and justify the abuse.