Many moons ago, my therapist told me a story about a broken vending machine. The moral of that story? When we continue our old, trauma-informed behavior and habits, there’s a good chance that we continue to struggle.
There is a very big lie that abusers tell their targets. It is the biggest lie of all. This lie tells the target: this is all your fault!
Sometimes we get so used to the abuse, that it becomes our normal. We don’t even realize what’s going on. Could balance and harmony be your new normal?
If you have experienced abuse then you know our physical, emotional and spiritual health has taken a beating, and it takes time to deal with the trauma.
Let me just tell you that you are worth friendship, love, respect… You are worth the investment of healing. The time, effort, cost… you are worth it!
All survivors have those types of triggers. In fact, sometimes it can be a smell, or a song, or seeing someone in the street who looks just like our abuser.
Rick shared the life-altering insight of State of Consciousness that helped me better understand myself and shape the consulting, training, coaching and mentoring I’ve done since
The further I progress my own healing, the more I learn what separates those who survive from the ones that thrive. So let’s look at surviving vs thriving!
Remember that when you are dealing with your abuser you will need to have a clear idea for yourself of what you consider a “winning” outcome.
One of the things we survivors of abuse have in common is the inability to get our abuser to just go away after the relationship is over.