Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
This week, that memory came back to me. Not because the hashtag triggered me necessarily, but because I was very hesitant to add my #metoo.
The problem with being told to leave my comfort zone for me as a survivor of abuse is that for the longest time I had no comfort zone.
Not only did I receive a compliment, I received a compliment from someone she was still trying to impress AND who was a professional in this field…
My mother FORBIDS my father (who is supposed to be an adult, I rush to point out) to eat ice cream. So, here is what he does to get his way
Having a bad day? Feeling the hurt and the fear? Would you wish you could just curl up in a ball and disappear? Here are three ways to turn the tide.
We all worry, get anxious and stressed! Rationally we are able to tell ourselves that we shouldn’t stress, but it can be hard to get our gut to follow suit.
The day that forever changed my life was daunting. Cutting ties with my parents. It felt like I was cutting away the safety net I was convinced I needed.
All survivors have those types of triggers. In fact, sometimes it can be a smell, or a song, or seeing someone in the street who looks just like our abuser.
The very idea that you might be busy when they call upon you is beyond a toxic person. The whole world revolves around them, after all.