All survivors have those types of triggers. In fact, sometimes it can be a smell, or a song, or seeing someone in the street who looks just like our abuser.
The drive for perfection means the toxic person focuses all their attention and effort on the exterior, but they are people of little emotional substance
It is difficult for survivors of abuse to keep safe from online stalking. Often the abuser keeps track of Facebook accounts, LinkedIn profiles, you name it!
A mother’s love is supposed to be the strongest and most unconditional love imaginable. It should create the basis of the love we have for ourselves
The further I progress my own healing, the more I learn what separates those who survive from the ones that thrive. So let’s look at surviving vs thriving!
So very often, when we read about domestic abuse in mainstream media, we are talking about the victims. “Why did she not leave?” seems the golden standard in reporting about abuse. It really is a question we need to stop asking. Why not ask “why did he continue to abuse her?” or perhaps even more important “how can I help?”
Growing up with an emotionally unavailable parent is far from normal. Yet in order to survive you will have convinced yourself that things were normal.
Today is Have a Bad Day Day, I wasn’t aware there was a specific date for this. I have bad days more than once annually, and I am sure that is not just me.
I have left a family behind when I decided that enough was enough. Since then I have gathered a group of close friends around me, all of whom I consider my True Family, my family of choice.
The most painful response I have received after telling someone about my decision to cut contact with my parents was: ‘You can’t, you will break their soul’. Why, after half a lifetime of pain and damage does the world still expect me to prioritize my abusers pain over my own?