Everybody gets that. I don’t believe that anyone, any human being, doesn’t from time to time have a meltdown. Welcome to the human race.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Every time we set ourselves overly ambitious goals that are doomed to get the better of us, we feel like a failure.
Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
This week, that memory came back to me. Not because the hashtag triggered me necessarily, but because I was very hesitant to add my #metoo.
The problem with being told to leave my comfort zone for me as a survivor of abuse is that for the longest time I had no comfort zone.
In a world where we are hardly viewed as people, and more as the embodiment of whatever job we have, we may need to ask: what are boundaries at work anyway?
Not only did I receive a compliment, I received a compliment from someone she was still trying to impress AND who was a professional in this field…