Many people only associate PTSD with combat soldiers, and those who have dealt with domestic violence know what it is like to fight a constant war at home
I cannot even count the number of times people have said to me: You can’t just cut contact, they are your parents! Guess what? Yes, I can!
It is easier to accept that someone has been a target of abuse when they have bruises to show. It is not the bruises that hurt most, it is feeling unlovable
Finding out about emotional abuse is a delicate balance of terrifying euphoria. It is both feeling liberated and a staring into the abyss.
Our most immediate association with the word violence is of physical aggression. But you can utterly destroy a person, and never lay a hand on them.
I bet you did not know that today is Forgiveness Day! It is always a touchy subject, but one I think that we need to keep discussing on SwanWaters.
The most painful response I have received after telling someone about my decision to cut contact with my parents was: ‘You can’t, you will break their soul’. Why, after half a lifetime of pain and damage does the world still expect me to prioritize my abusers pain over my own?
I found a poem that I had written years ago. Although it was years before there was even a concept of SwanWaters alive in the world, this poem is perfect for our beautiful community.
Today I almost cried while staring at my laptop screen in my local coffee shop. Someone had shared a link to an article in the Huffington Post that “would be interesting for the Swan project you work on”. I read, and read, and read, and I momentarily broke in half.