Sometimes we expect healing to magically occur, but it requires our active involvement.
Many moons ago, my therapist told me a story about a broken vending machine. The moral of that story? When we continue our old, trauma-informed behavior and habits, there’s a good chance that we continue to struggle.
It is not until you discover the wet towel someone left at the bottom of the laundry basket, that you really see the need to air that mess out.
There is a very big lie that abusers tell their targets. It is the biggest lie of all. This lie tells the target: this is all your fault!
Toxic people take no blame, and love playing the victim. So whatever they do, be ready for it to be your fault!
Don’t be fooled, people who create drama, and then portray themselves as the victim are playing games. They are manipulating you.
That’s how an abuser breaks your confidence. They make you doubt your strengths and focus on your weaknesses. No wonder you feel flawed and incompetent
Although I understand that everyone will at some point in their lives trust someone they shouldn’t, emotional abuse makes our trust meter go haywire.
When abuse never takes any physical form, it can be tough to feel sure it ever happened. After all, everybody makes mistakes… no parent is perfect. Right?
Let me just tell you that you are worth friendship, love, respect… You are worth the investment of healing. The time, effort, cost… you are worth it!