Don’t be fooled, people who create drama, and then portray themselves as the victim are playing games. They are manipulating you.
Although I understand that everyone will at some point in their lives trust someone they shouldn’t, emotional abuse makes our trust meter go haywire.
When abuse never takes any physical form, it can be tough to feel sure it ever happened. After all, everybody makes mistakes… no parent is perfect. Right?
Let me just tell you that you are worth friendship, love, respect… You are worth the investment of healing. The time, effort, cost… you are worth it!
Everybody gets that. I don’t believe that anyone, any human being, doesn’t from time to time have a meltdown. Welcome to the human race.
Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
The problem with being told to leave my comfort zone for me as a survivor of abuse is that for the longest time I had no comfort zone.
The further I progress my own healing, the more I learn what separates those who survive from the ones that thrive. So let’s look at surviving vs thriving!
So very often, when we read about domestic abuse in mainstream media, we are talking about the victims. “Why did she not leave?” seems the golden standard in reporting about abuse. It really is a question we need to stop asking. Why not ask “why did he continue to abuse her?” or perhaps even more important “how can I help?”