When abuse never takes any physical form, it can be tough to feel sure it ever happened. After all, everybody makes mistakes… no parent is perfect. Right?
Let me just tell you that you are worth friendship, love, respect… You are worth the investment of healing. The time, effort, cost… you are worth it!
I decided I was worth something. I was worth boundaries and respect. It was the day I told my parents that I’d no longer have anything to do with them
We should just drop the D. It shouldn’t be Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. There’s nothing disordered about it. PTSD is a normal, natural response to trauma
While I expected that No Contact would give me more day-to-day respite from the crazy, I didn’t expect that I would feel so much better physically.
I did not think there was more full-on crazy, but me going No Contact revealed a whole new level. It was a relief to see that I was clearly not the problem.
By going No Contact, I blocked his ability to turn me inside out emotionally on a dime. So while it brought out the crazy in him, it helped me balance
I didn’t see this coming: People who didn’t understand what No Contact actually is and wanted to lecture me about how I should “find a way to get along.”
People can learn resilience skills to use when facing challenging times, and increase the quality of the experience and change the quality of the outcome.
My mother had an aversion to relaxation. Probably because any form of stillness left her alone with her thoughts for too long. But she’d tolerate the zoo.