As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Every time we set ourselves overly ambitious goals that are doomed to get the better of us, we feel like a failure.
Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
A while ago, I wrote a little blog about people who are energy drains (you can find it here) In it I wrote: “There are people in this world who leave you feeling totally depleted. Not even after a day of intense arguing about something, but instantly. The second you see them, you feel your […]
This week, that memory came back to me. Not because the hashtag triggered me necessarily, but because I was very hesitant to add my #metoo.
Practising mindfulness is, in my opinion, one of the most powerful tools to access a change in perspective. If I am not my past, then who am I?
The problem with being told to leave my comfort zone for me as a survivor of abuse is that for the longest time I had no comfort zone.
Where we’ve felt like a failure or unable to follow through in the past, we can start setting goals for ourselves, and set the reward for reaching them.
Not only did I receive a compliment, I received a compliment from someone she was still trying to impress AND who was a professional in this field…