It occurs to me that people want survivors to just “get over it”. The healing is superficial as the emphasis is not on being well, but on being well enough.
Do you know someone who’s so afraid of conflict that they’ll just not make any decisions or voice any opinions? This is utterly unaccommodating behavior.
We can’t be constantly in survival mode while also trying to heal. So ask yourself if Facebook makes you anxious, maybe it’s time to take a Facebook fast.
Everybody gets that. I don’t believe that anyone, any human being, doesn’t from time to time have a meltdown. Welcome to the human race.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Every time we set ourselves overly ambitious goals that are doomed to get the better of us, we feel like a failure.
Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
A while ago, I wrote a little blog about people who are energy drains (you can find it here) In it I wrote: “There are people in this world who leave you feeling totally depleted. Not even after a day of intense arguing about something, but instantly. The second you see them, you feel your […]
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work