Toxic people take no responsibility for any of their behavior. They will try to have deniability, although they’re also prone to the ‘stone cold denial’.
Living in a toxic family meant there was always some drama going on, and my parents were often in the eye of the storm. See, that is how they tend to roll.
Ever notice how some people are never to blame for anything? Every toxic person I have ever met operates under the principle: denial, denial, denial!
I truly don’t remember a time in my life when I did not feel shame. We’re not talking about the same thing as guilt.
The very idea that you might be busy when they call upon you is beyond a toxic person. The whole world revolves around them, after all.
Decide whether time with your sister is worth the anxiety of a possible ambush. It may very well be, only you can decide that.
If your parents continue to suggest you reconcile, you may feel inclined to take the emotion out of things.
By giving you different “versions of the truth” they are trying to manipulate how you feel about situations, and perhaps even each other.
The drive for perfection means the toxic person focuses all their attention and effort on the exterior, but they are people of little emotional substance
It is very common for people who are unable to manage their own emotions healthily, to blame other people for the things that go on in their lives.