When living with an abusive partner, your “fight or flight” response is always at a heightened state, keeping your brain in a constant mode of anxiety. So it’s no wonder we get sick more often
That’s what happens when you spend your days in an emotional foxhole, trying to anticipate another person’s moods and make sense of crazy
Remember that when you are dealing with your abuser you will need to have a clear idea for yourself of what you consider a “winning” outcome.
One of the things we survivors of abuse have in common is the inability to get our abuser to just go away after the relationship is over.
As you walk this road recovery, know that it’s perfectly fine to have those moments of mourning. You lost something and it was huge. Grief is normal
The target spends so much time living for the abuser, trying to anticipate every need and whim, the core of who they are becomes hidden, it’s identity theft
Fear is an emotion of negative influence and the sooner you learn to push past the fear and recognize it for what it is, you will find new peace.
Isolation is a typical tactic of the abuser. It is also one of their best weapons. You become more reliant on him or her for companionship and connection.
You must look at the dissolution of the relationship as the beginning of a journey, not a destination. One of the first skills to learn is the “gut check”.
This isn’t your typical feel-good abuse recovery. Bodies in the Basement is the rebirth of a blog and support site called Emotional Abuse Survivors Network.