Now that we’ve thoroughly investigated the nature of abuse and the tactics that an abuser uses to control their targets, we should shift our focus to the effects that abuse has on a person. The younger a person is when exposed to abuse, the more likely they are to develop long-lasting emotional problems because of…...
A toxic person can never provide any of the loving support we deserve and expect in a close relationship. To them, another person is simply an extension of themselves. This means that targets have different aspects of the toxic person’s identity projected upon them. Whether they are shaped to embody everything the toxic parent dislikes…...
In this next section, we’ll look at different methods abusers use to accomplish this. These strategies all play on the emotional and mental processes of the target. They’re all about entangling you, and keeping you trapped in the relationship. Let’s start at the very beginning when we’re pulled into the proverbial Venus Flytrap. Love-Bombing As…...
Abusers use various methods of control and manipulation. Understanding these tactics of abuse may help you understand what’s happened and how you can heal.
In this webinar I discuss how embracing the seasonal energy can shift your mindset, further your healing and help you cope with the holidays.
The holidays bring up emotions for many people, especially so for survivors. It is a good idea to prepare yourself a little so you can have happy holidays.
I decided I was worth something. I was worth boundaries and respect. It was the day I told my parents that I’d no longer have anything to do with them
Escaping an abusive situation is difficult, if not full on dangerous. Preparing your escape will make you more likely to get out and stay out. Here is some advice to consider while getting ready.
Sometimes it is easier to just put down one big boundary rather than 100 little, individual ones. The biggest of all big boundaries is obviously No Contact
I find myself typing about PTSD, and how it gets to turn a funny, loving, and positive person, into a blubbering fool who is ready to just give up.