Where Stewart finds the playbook and opens Mags’ eyes I was at the office and Stewart worked from home. It was the spring of 2012 and a month or so after we made the necessary move away from my parents’ place to a small apartment in a new city. While I was at work, Stewart […]
My health journey began long before I started focusing on my physical health. It started with a commitment to learning what self-love is.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work
This week, that memory came back to me. Not because the hashtag triggered me necessarily, but because I was very hesitant to add my #metoo.
When living with an abusive partner, your “fight or flight” response is always at a heightened state, keeping your brain in a constant mode of anxiety. So it’s no wonder we get sick more often
In my experience it has been far harder to deal with the Flying Monkey, than with the actual abuser(s). I felt far more confused, hurt and unbalanced after encounters, than I did for example in the aftermath of no contact.
I truly don’t remember a time in my life when I did not feel shame. We’re not talking about the same thing as guilt.
Remember that when you are dealing with your abuser you will need to have a clear idea for yourself of what you consider a “winning” outcome.
One of the things we survivors of abuse have in common is the inability to get our abuser to just go away after the relationship is over.
As you walk this road recovery, know that it’s perfectly fine to have those moments of mourning. You lost something and it was huge. Grief is normal