People can be a energy drain when they aren’t even in the same room. I haven’t spoken to family in years and yet just the thought of them can exhaust me.

A while ago, I wrote a little blog about people who are energy drains (you can find it here)

In it I wrote:

“There are people in this world who leave you feeling totally depleted. Not even after a day of intense arguing about something, but instantly. The second you see them, you feel your energy drain from your body and mind.”

This week I was reminded that people can even drain your energy when they aren’t even in the same room. I mean, I haven’t spoken to family in years and yet I have times where just the thought of them can just make me feel physically sick with exhaustion.

It is important in those moments to take a step back and lean into self-care. Take a break, make some time to reconnect with yourself and get those thoughts and memories under control. Sometimes that looks like watching a sad movie so you can cry the pain out of yourself. Sometimes it means taking a walk in the forest and reconnecting with nature. Sometimes it is a nap, a call to a friend or a trip to the gym. Sometimes, it is all of the above.

Whatever you feel like in the moment, listen to your gut and look after yourself.
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While I may technically be the Director here at SwanWaters, my unofficial title is Healing Cheerleader! I’m a survivor of childhood emotional abuse and workplace bullying. And believe me when I say that I’ve walked the walk when it comes to healing from trauma. I firmly believe that we can undo some of the damage that abuse has done to us, and learn the necessary skills to handle life and all it brings us.

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  1. scapechi

    January 14, 2018 at 8:35 pm

    How very true! I find myself now at the weekends chilling out more and enjoying my time with my daughter. It helps me recharge. I don;t feel guilty anymore for taking time for me, as I know in the long run, my body and soul are better for it and so is the relationship with my daughter. She no longer gets a tired and grumpy mum, she gets one that is more relaxed and it helps her see that self care is very important.

  2. Me-------------

    January 27, 2018 at 4:46 pm

    I absolutely agree with you. I live out of state from my family. One call can sometimes send me into panic, produce migraine headache symptoms, or make me feel as if I’ve just battled a fire, literally. Through experience, I’ve learned to text way more than talk. Seems to limit their exposure to me. And especially with my Mom, I call her on “my” time when I’m not at home; it seems I feel stronger when in the “outside” world.


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