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In a world where having an online presence is almost unavoidable, it can be difficult for targets and survivors of abuse to figure out how to keep themselves safe from online stalking. More often than not the abuser will keep track of Facebook accounts, LinkedIn profiles, and more.

We May Not Always Think Of Our Abuser’s Behavior As Online Stalking, But It Probably Is

As soon as our online information is scooped up in order to be used against us, there is a stalking issue there. And by ‘used against you I mean that this information can be used to induce guilt, or to remind us we are still on their radar (if we thought we were free of them for good because we’ve gone No Contact).

“I think the very word stalking implies that you’re not supposed to like it.
Otherwise, it would be called ‘fluffy harmless observation time’.”
― Molly Harper

So how can you gain your online freedom?

Common Sense Is Key

Make sure you keep yourself safe online. So don’t overshare. This is smart practice for every person in the world, really. But it is especially good for us as survivors to remind ourselves of it. When you think of oversharing, your thoughts may jump straight to compromising pictures or address details, but it includes more than this. Other things to include in this are not to share your holiday itinerary on social media platforms, or even give any information about where you are going to be. Keep details safe: no addresses, phone numbers, or email addresses in public spaces. Keep your privacy settings under control so that you know who you are sharing with. And remember that likes and comments can open up your content to other people’s networks.

On Facebook, you can create a secret group for your closest friends and family. This is a good way to safely open up about plans, events, and thoughts that you want to keep away from your abuser. This allows you to control exactly who can and cannot access that information.

Check out more tips at Get Safe Online.

Also, look through this Tech Safety List on LoveIsRespect.org for some good tips.

Don’t Let Fear Take Over

For a long time, I let fear control what I did online. I was so freaked out at the idea of my family looking into me that I just kind of froze. That made it more difficult to keep in touch with my friends (since they have spread around the globe), but it also became an issue for my work. Every time I felt I had closed one door, my family focused on another window. Hiding from them became somewhat of an obsession. Then it hit me. They are still controlling me through fear. So I let go of it.

If they say living well is the best revenge, then let them know you are living well!

Guard Your Privacy

Make sure that the things you want to keep private remain so. Connecting to others about your experiences is important, but doing so in a safe environment is more important still. Although you can connect in Facebook groups or Google+ Hangouts that are shielded from the public, you are still connecting through your own identity. Besides, a phone is easily left unguarded with access to all your social media apps.

If you want to learn more about No Contact or Establishing and Maintaining Personal Boundaries, join us in The Healing Academy.

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While I may technically be the Director here at SwanWaters, my unofficial title is Healing Cheerleader! I’m a survivor of childhood emotional abuse and workplace bullying. And believe me when I say that I’ve walked the walk when it comes to healing from trauma. I firmly believe that we can undo some of the damage that abuse has done to us, and learn the necessary skills to handle life and all it brings us.

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It is difficult for survivors of abuse to keep safe from online stalking. Often the abuser keeps track of Facebook accounts, LinkedIn profiles, you name it!

It is difficult for survivors of abuse to keep safe from online stalking. Often the abuser keeps track of Facebook accounts, LinkedIn profiles, you name it!

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