When we are targeted by an abuser, personal boundaries become blurred. We become a part of the person hurting us because they expertly crush our sense of self. Any perimeters we place around our lives are either not acknowledged or completely forbidden. Why? Because they limit the toxic person’s attempts at playing games with us. So in order to avoid their targets standing up for themselves, abusers trample upon our boundaries. On top of this, they make us feel that even entertaining the desire to have any is selfish, rude, and wrong.
Once we have escaped the minefield of abuse, we are often left with no sense of healthy boundaries. We don’t know how to set and maintain them, and still feel overwhelming guilt for even wanting to. In addition to this, we often have no idea how they work—let alone how we can even begin to make them a part of our lives. But as you will come to see, having boundaries is vital if we want to have healthy relationships and a happy existence. They create the outline of our experience of life and define who we are; creating a distinction between where the world ends and we begin.
“Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.”
In this space, we are looking at the ins and outs of personal boundaries—what they are, why they are important, and some healthy ways to set and maintain them. This module’s contents include
- The Many Faces of Boundaries
- 4 Important Things to Keep in Mind
- When Your Boundaries Are Challenged
- Download – 17 Hacks for Healthy Boundary Setting