Remember that when you are dealing with your abuser you will need to have a clear idea for yourself of what you consider a “winning” outcome.
Even the most well-meaning person, if not the survivor of abuse, can ask themselves why did she not leave the situation? (Or he of course, since men are targets of domestic abuse too) After all, it’s a logical question, particularly when the target stays in the abusive relationship sometimes for decades. It’s so incredibly hard to understand if you have not lived it, but for those of us who have, there are four common reasons behind why we stay.
As you walk this road recovery, know that it’s perfectly fine to have those moments of mourning. You lost something and it was huge. Grief is normal
So very often, when we read about domestic abuse in mainstream media, we are talking about the victims. “Why did she not leave?” seems the golden standard in reporting about abuse. It really is a question we need to stop asking. Why not ask “why did he continue to abuse her?” or perhaps even more important “how can I help?”
Growing up with an emotionally unavailable parent is far from normal. Yet in order to survive you will have convinced yourself that things were normal.
It’s easy to fall back into repetitive patterns because we like the familiar. As you navigate your healing, remember to be kind to yourself.
This isn’t your typical feel-good abuse recovery. Bodies in the Basement is the rebirth of a blog and support site called Emotional Abuse Survivors Network.
Most of us know the term Stockholm Syndrome from TV shows. We associate it with the kidnap and abuse of children. It also influences adult victims of abuse.
People may be miles apart, there is little difference in how emotional abuse is perpetrated. This list will help you spot the emotional abuser in your life.