There is a very big lie that abusers tell their targets. It is the biggest lie of all. This lie tells the target: this is all your fault!
One way I like to reflect on my healing journey is to look back over my own writing. It gives me glimpses of how far I’ve come.
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”
It is very common for people who are unable to manage their own emotions healthily, to blame other people for the things that go on in their lives.