Meeting that family was like walking into a house of mirrors. My perception of myself, my partner, the world… it all got distorted.
It is not until you discover the wet towel someone left at the bottom of the laundry basket, that you really see the need to air that mess out.
Don’t be fooled, people who create drama, and then portray themselves as the victim are playing games. They are manipulating you.
For your convenience and reading pleasure: a round-up of all the articles that SwanWaters has shared this week. Happy Sunday!
No Contact is the act of taking away the abuser’s ability to contact you. Learn more about what No Contact is, how it work and what to expect from it.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
With abusers constantly attacking our boundaries, we develop toxicity; a defense mechanism consisting of a set of unhealthy attitudes and behavior to cope
Sometimes it is easier to just put down one big boundary rather than 100 little, individual ones. The biggest of all big boundaries is obviously No Contact
Compassion is not the same as letting people get away with whatever they want. Compassion is also expressing limits.
Survivors of abuse may often go into over-justifying our boundaries more than being poor at communicating boundaries in general.