It is not until you discover the wet towel someone left at the bottom of the laundry basket, that you really see the need to air that mess out.
There is a very big lie that abusers tell their targets. It is the biggest lie of all. This lie tells the target: this is all your fault!
Don’t be fooled, people who create drama, and then portray themselves as the victim are playing games. They are manipulating you.
While we are subject to abuse, we sometimes cause pain to others too. We are recruited as Flying Monkeys, and are tricked into doing the abuser’s dirty work