Meeting that family was like walking into a house of mirrors. My perception of myself, my partner, the world… it all got distorted.
It is not until you discover the wet towel someone left at the bottom of the laundry basket, that you really see the need to air that mess out.
There is a very big lie that abusers tell their targets. It is the biggest lie of all. This lie tells the target: this is all your fault!
Toxic people take no blame, and love playing the victim. So whatever they do, be ready for it to be your fault!
Don’t be fooled, people who create drama, and then portray themselves as the victim are playing games. They are manipulating you.
The drive for perfection means the toxic person focuses all their attention and effort on the exterior, but they are people of little emotional substance
While healing from abuse, we have to disregard (and mourn) the person we thought we were, and start building ourselves from the ground up.
Our minds are like a haunted house. Sometimes we hear disembodies voices in there, sometimes we see full body apparitions.
Today is Have a Bad Day Day, I wasn’t aware there was a specific date for this. I have bad days more than once annually, and I am sure that is not just me.
I have left a family behind when I decided that enough was enough. Since then I have gathered a group of close friends around me, all of whom I consider my True Family, my family of choice.