Meeting that family was like walking into a house of mirrors. My perception of myself, my partner, the world… it all got distorted.
It is not until you discover the wet towel someone left at the bottom of the laundry basket, that you really see the need to air that mess out.
There is a very big lie that abusers tell their targets. It is the biggest lie of all. This lie tells the target: this is all your fault!
Toxic people take no blame, and love playing the victim. So whatever they do, be ready for it to be your fault!
Don’t be fooled, people who create drama, and then portray themselves as the victim are playing games. They are manipulating you.
That’s how an abuser breaks your confidence. They make you doubt your strengths and focus on your weaknesses. No wonder you feel flawed and incompetent
For your convenience and reading pleasure: a round-up of all the articles that SwanWaters has shared this week. Happy Sunday!
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
A while ago, I wrote a little blog about people who are energy drains (you can find it here) In it I wrote: “There are people in this world who leave you feeling totally depleted. Not even after a day of intense arguing about something, but instantly. The second you see them, you feel your […]