No Contact is the act of taking away the abuser’s ability to contact you. Learn more about what No Contact is, how it work and what to expect from it.
In this podcast about my no contact anniversary, I talk about more complicated emotions like anger and guilt, and how sometimes we feel tired of recovery.
There is a fine balance between being prepared for legitimate threats, and just being anxious and obsessive.
Whether by denial, lying or being covertly abusive – phrasing what they say very carefully to intentionally hurt you – an abuser will use gaslighting as just one weapon in an arsenal of many. The tactic is used to alienate and isolate you from others, most especially your loved ones or co-workers.
The silent treatment is commonly used by narcissists and sociopaths. It is dished out as punishment, and means the victim ceases to exist in their world.
One of the things we survivors of abuse have in common is the inability to get our abuser to just go away after the relationship is over.
Since I have been away from my family, I have not missed them even for a single second. If there had been love, there had been grief.
I cannot even count the number of times people have said to me: You can’t just cut contact, they are your parents! Guess what? Yes, I can!