I decided I was worth something. I was worth boundaries and respect. It was the day I told my parents that I’d no longer have anything to do with them
Sometimes it is easier to just put down one big boundary rather than 100 little, individual ones. The biggest of all big boundaries is obviously No Contact
Here’s where the uninformed become proxy abusers: when they assume that No Contact is another version of “I’m punishing you so I’m not going to talk to you.”
The day that forever changed my life was daunting. Cutting ties with my parents. It felt like I was cutting away the safety net I was convinced I needed.
The most painful response I have received after telling someone about my decision to cut contact with my parents was: ‘You can’t, you will break their soul’. Why, after half a lifetime of pain and damage does the world still expect me to prioritize my abusers pain over my own?
Experiencing the revelation of recognizing a Toxic Person in your life, you will probably be confused, anxious, angry, heartbroken and even grieving.