Now that we’ve thoroughly investigated the nature of abuse and the tactics that an abuser uses to control their targets, we should shift our focus to the effects that abuse has on a person. The younger a person is when exposed to abuse, the more likely they are to develop long-lasting emotional problems because of…...
A toxic person can never provide any of the loving support we deserve and expect in a close relationship. To them, another person is simply an extension of themselves. This means that targets have different aspects of the toxic person’s identity projected upon them. Whether they are shaped to embody everything the toxic parent dislikes…...
In this next section, we’ll look at different methods abusers use to accomplish this. These strategies all play on the emotional and mental processes of the target. They’re all about entangling you, and keeping you trapped in the relationship. Let’s start at the very beginning when we’re pulled into the proverbial Venus Flytrap. Love-Bombing As…...
Abusers use various methods of control and manipulation. Understanding these tactics of abuse may help you understand what’s happened and how you can heal.
Sometimes we get so used to the abuse, that it becomes our normal. We don’t even realize what’s going on. Could balance and harmony be your new normal?
Escaping an abusive situation is difficult, if not full on dangerous. Preparing your escape will make you more likely to get out and stay out. Here is some advice to consider while getting ready.
As survivors our alarm bells go a little bit haywire.What we need to look for: Is this a toxic pattern or is this a one-off?
The short-coming isn’t in the emotional pain you feel. The short-coming is in our collective inability to understand that there is no time-line for healing.
Let me say this about that turn of phrase ‘the right to see their grandchild’. I think that, when they chose to be abusive to you, they forfeited any rights to your children.
Anger is a very powerful emotion. One which society tends to feel is bad and self-indulgent. Yet it has the potential to benefit our relationships.