I once heard someone speak of the children of narcissists as Bonsai Children. I kind of like that. Any target of abuse starts out with the potential to grow into a tree. We are put in a small pot though, and our branches are carefully cut and manipulated to grow into certain shapes. Our growth is stunted and our potential seems lost.
Here is the beauty, though. Take that bonsai tree and plant it in the earth. Look after it. Feed it. Care for the soil and protect it from the frost.
That little bonsai tree has everything still in it to grow into that beautiful tree.
Like bonsai trees, so too survivors of abuse can reclaim their potential. We step out of the restrictive “pot” of abuse, we get our roots down in the earth. We bump into a rock or two as we are finding our grip. We need some people to pour out some plant feed on our new little patch of earth, and maybe help us pull up some of the weed.
Slowly but surely we can feel the life flow back in, We can feel all our branches relax, and beginning to grow in different directions. You grow more leaves, and stretch out toward the sunlight. Before you know it, you have grown to a full-sized redwood…
Keep growing, you beautiful bonsai trees!