I bet you did not know that today is Forgiveness Day!
Forgiveness (or the F-Word, as we sometimes reference it) is always a touchy subject, but one I think that we need to keep discussing.
Forgiveness is hard! I get that, really I do! I mean, I am right there with you. Somewhere between anger, guilt, blame and responsibility. But, I firmly believe that forgiveness is an important step in our healing journey. A step that has nothing to do with my abusers, and everything to do with my inner-peace. In fact, I don’t think it is a step at all. Forgiveness is a journey in and of itself.
Here are some thoughts about forgiveness from the SwanWaters Team:
I found that forgiveness had to be about me forgiving myself. Like many survivors, I blamed myself for the abuse I endured. Forgiveness for survivors doesn’t mean what it does for others, because we forgive the abuse over and over–it’s what keeps us there. Forgiveness was about no longer giving the memories any power over me emotionally or physically.
Forgiveness is not that free pass for the abuser, it is not even sweeping your story under the rug (again). I think it is about owning your story and being at peace with it. I have no interest in grudges,
I have enough baggage with just my pain and grief ♥
Unforgiveness is like an acid. The acid harms the vessel that carries it more than the object it might be poured upon. Don’t hold ACID in your heart. You can forgive and still own your Truth. When you own your Truth, that is ultimate forgiveness for yourself. Nothing is more important than that.
Don’t Go It Alone
Oh, and if you need some support on your day of forgiveness, it is also Take Your Dog to Work Day so you can cuddle in the office while contemplating forgiveness (Lacking a dog, or an office? No problem! Just head to the Facebook group and join the discussion there!)
Share your thoughts on forgiveness below, I am always curious to hear what you think.