Let me just tell you that you are worth friendship, love, respect... You are worth the investment of healing. The time, effort, cost... you are worth it! 

Word reached me last week, that an old friend had passed away. As sad as the news was, it wasn’t necessarily very surprising. My friend had encountered a lot of trauma, both in his childhood and beyond. He had been “self-medicating” with alcohol for years and had had a few close calls already. Our friendship, too, had become a victim of his self-medicating. As much as I wanted to help, but there is nothing you can do for someone who doesn’t want help. Or thinks they don’t deserve it.

It breaks my heart to think he felt like that. He was funny. He was witty. He was passionate. He was fiercely protective of the people he loved. He made a kick-ass shepherd’s pie. He was always looking for the double entendre. He was always up for a political debate or philosophical discussion (and boy did he know his stuff).

I doubt he knew this is how I viewed him, or at least… not in his heart of hearts. Maybe he felt he was a fraud for making me think this was what he was like.

Do you ever feel like that? Like people must be insane to see you for anything other than the poor excuse for a human being you are?

Let me just tell you that you are worth friendship, love, respect… You are worth the investment of healing. The time, the effort, the cost… you are worth it!

Finding ways to deal with the pain can be challenging, but you are worth meeting that challenge head-on!

Don’t try and push the pain down. Don’t try to drown it out with alcohol, drugs, food, adrenaline… whatever your vice. It may help in the short-term… but that’s no way to build a life full of love, compassion, and happiness.

If you need a hand with that, come join us in the Facebook Group. We are all survivors in there, and we are all trying to figure it out!

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Having gained experience while working for a variety of European non-profits, I am proud to now work with SwanWaters. My connection with the website is not only professional. I am glad to tap into my personal experiences to help those who are living in toxic relationships whether with parents, partners or in their professional life. We need to make the world more aware of the devastating effects of emotional abuse and help more people on their way to heal and thrive.

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