If it was not for my friends, I would have been lost. I'd not have been able to even leave my family, or make it through the healing either.

Without My Friends and My Partner, I Might Have Been Lost

Not only would I not have been able to even leave my family, I don’t think I would have made it through the healing either. Having the love and support of those closest to you is so important. I had never felt as vulnerable as when I first cut contact with my parents. Although I was so happy and proud that I had actually done it, I also felt like I had nothing and no-one to fall back on.

I was quite shy about telling people what was going on. So especially in the beginning, only a hand full of people was really aware. My closest friends had met my family too, so they were the people I confided in. It still made me nervous though. How do you start that conversation, right?

To this day, the best response I got was from a dear friend who unfortunately I do not get to see very often. Luckily he was in the country only two months after I cut contact. I ended up just blurting it out. All he did was give me the biggest bear hug ever. That was it.

Sometimes a hug really is all you need. It is like that meme that goes around the internet:

One day someone will hug you so tight. That all your broken pieces will stick back together.

Sometimes You Need To Talk to People Who Really Get It

Once I started plowing through my memories, I needed to make sense of them. The best people to do that with, are people who understand that process. Other survivors in short.

Even then, I needed my partner to help me. If not only because he would sit me behind to computer to chat to my Survivor Tribe when he sensed I was struggling (and he usually knows before I do).

There are many ways that survivors need their dearest and nearest to help them.

So, if you are a survivor, keep your friends close.

If you are a supporter, there are many ways you can help. No gesture is too small to make a difference.

Fly Free,

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Having gained experience while working for a variety of European non-profits, I am proud to now work with SwanWaters. My connection with the website is not only professional. I am glad to tap into my personal experiences to help those who are living in toxic relationships whether with parents, partners or in their professional life. We need to make the world more aware of the devastating effects of emotional abuse and help more people on their way to heal and thrive.

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